Relationships & Sleep

Problem

Your partner kicks in his or her sleep, waking you up.

Solution

Make sure your mattress gives each person adequate room to sleep. If you are sharing a double (full-size) mattress, here’s a fact you might not know: that only gives each person as much room as sleeping in a crib! Couples should share a mattress no smaller than queen-size.

Problem

Your partner snores, keeping you up at night.

Solution

Because snoring can be part of a serious health issue, consult your physician first. If your partner’s snoring is run-of-the-mill, try investing in anti-snore pillows, sprays or nasal strips designed to help people breathe more easily. These products often alleviate the worst of the issue. And if your partner’s snoring persists, try foam earplugs before you try a different room.

Problem

Your partner tosses and turns.

Solution

It could be your mattress. If your mattress is uncomfortable, it can lead to restless sleep. Evaluate the comfort and support of your mattress every five to seven years to determine whether it’s the culprit.

Problem

Your partner loves to cuddle, but you like your space while you sleep.

Solution

Compromise. Before falling asleep, spend some time snuggling together – and then agree to sleep apart.

Problem

Your sleep schedules don’t match.

Solution

Try finding a bedtime that works for both of you. If your partner turns in early and you’re a night owl, try reading a book with a personal book lamp until you’re ready to nod off. If you’re an early riser compared to your sleep partner, be considerate when you awake. Keep overhead lights off and use minimal lighting while your partner is sleeping.

Problem

Your bedroom feels more like an office than a place to sleep.

Solution

Repeat after me: Your bedroom should only be used for sleep and sex. Keep work, laptops, phones and televisions out of the bedroom. This creates a much more relaxing – and romantic –atmosphere, and will give you both a better night’s sleep.